Crappy Childhood Fairy's Story of Healing Emotional Dysregulation After Growing Up in Abuse

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Has childhood abuse, neglect, or trauma impacted you? Today’s guest, Anna Runkle, aka Crappy Childhood Fairy, is here to talk about how growing up in an abusive home led to difficulty regulating emotions and relationships and how she learned to practice healthy emotional regulation through her life journey.
Emotional dysregulation often happens after CPTSD because the brain develops adaptive strategies to living in an abusive home- strategies like cutting people off, denial, and blowing up – that work in the short term in a toxic environment. But these strategies don’t work when you’re trying to live a healthy and stable life.
Anna teaches how you can learn to regulate your brain and your emotions thought a simple daily practice of grounding and writing. Childhood abuse or neglect doesn’t have to define you, and Anna will show you how.

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Bob B. says:

These two talking to me are like two superheros in one comic.

Juliet Davis says:

Omg this is soo me😢

Father burning says:

Its crazy but Anna feels like the Mum figuire i wish i had. Which is also a really good thing that this can help me learn to try, at least try to trust women. Thats what happens when your amazing up on a pedestal mum abandons you for her boyfriend when your still a child. Thanks for this interview. Trying to recover from physical ill health due to a life of hyper vigilance and alcoholism now. Its going well, painful but on my way. 👍

Donna Hinks says:

Wow, that trauma story really parallels my own. Thank you for sharing and for articulating what I’m going through.

Cancionera says:

26:31 yes. I avoid people altogether or am just a spectator inside while outwardly seeming part of something.

Healing path says:

Thank you I totally resonate 💜🙏

Mark Croom says:

Complex trauma sucks. Someone introduced me to Pete Walker's book a few years back. The first time I read it I would read a few paragraphs or a page and stop to cry. THIS is my experience would be my constant thought as I read along. I read it twice then read it aloud in my studio to give to my sister as an audiobook because we were in the same dysfunctional household with parents who didn't even know they had emotionally abandoned their children. They have CPTSD too, but they didn't know it any more than my sister and I did. I listened to "The Body Keeps the Score" and found it very helpful. I couldn't deal with the tiny print in the paper edition we had, but audio was great for me. More recently I learned about Anna and while I chuckle at her pseudonym I love the idea it communicates and have found her videos very helpful as I continue my journey toward health. I'm about Anna's age so we have some similar cultural experiences such as growing up finding a peaceful haven in Mister Rogers' Neighborhood. I'm married to a lovely lady with her own childhood complex trauma, compounded by how I treated her out of my undiagnosed CPTSD. I've had to own up to the abusive ways I have related to her and we're walking together toward individual and mutual healing. This video was a fantastic introduction to the things we've been learning for about eight years and continue to internalize. Even at this point of my growth I still had tears in my eyes a few times during this conversation. Thanks ladies, I know it's a couple years old as I type this but it's still being seen and I, for one, found it inspiring and helpful. Newcomers — please check out Anna's channel for more relatable counsel for those of us deeply marked by complex trauma.

Hail the Lion of Judah says:

It’s so interesting how much of these conversations intertwine beautifully with the truths of the Bible, even discussions in the comment senction. God bless both of you, you have wonderful ministries and whether intentional or not, He uses you both greatly ❤

Emily Winterflood says:

Thank you both so much for this incredibly informative and insightful video. I have made so many helpful notes and will be using them daily. Your an angel Anna and you too Emma. For once in my life I feel hope ❤❤❤

Emily Winterflood says:

Crapfit… great expression Anna ! ❤❤❤❤

Connie says:

❤WOW first 20-25 minutes is POWERFUL 🎉Thanks Emma & Anna!

Courtney Tran says:

America needs the healing that occurs when we recognize CPTSD.

Victoria Porsiempre says:

you both are the biggest help in my healing process ❤
Blessings and thanks for your work 🙏🏽

vanessa leocadio says:

Thank sharing I taking my power back

G G says:

I suffer(ed) from dysregulation and also know some young ppl who suffer from it. I want so badly to help them get their lives back, but their parents aren't interested in getting therapy for their kids. I feel ineffective because of this.

Vidushi Gupta says:

I love this lady! She has helped me learn so much about CPTSD, BPD and other issues that will really help me in enable someone very close to my ❤.

G G says:

I describe dysregulation as: How you would feel if someone had just hit you in the head with a 2×4, and your head was still spinning, your ears were still ringing, you couldn't see straight yet, were in extreme pain, and were still just trying to figure out what just happened (the stereotypical old cartoon scene where the injured character has stars circling their head with a tweeting sound), and meanwhile, someone is asking you to recite the pledge of allegiance. This recitation is how it feels to deal with day to day life, and gets worse during stressful situations. People who have gone through trauma often cannot deal with relationships because the stars and tweeting are still circling their head. It is impossible to concentrate and recite the pledge, just as dysregulation keeps you from getting through normal life.

Celena Hoey says:

Thank you Anna!!! You bless my life so much ❤

LavynO says:

She asked you to tell the short story version about yourself.
And you've been going on for 30 minutes. IT'S TMI. DON'T want to hear your entire life story omg Im not sure I believe you cause how do you remember all that? Stop talking about yourself. I totally forgot the topic.

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